Unleash the Power of Your Sexual Mind with Sexual Mindfulness
Most loving, committed couples get stuck in a sexual rut at some point in their relationship. They are not dysfunctional, just stuck.
The Truth About Long-Term Sexual Relationships
When you’ve been in a long-term sexual relationship it is easy to take sex with your partner for granted and anticipate how any given sexual encounter will play out.
Whenever you want to have sex or anticipate having sex with your long-term partner your mind instantly goes “past, present, future.” It jumps back into the past to a similar sexual situation, brings this scenario into the present moment, and jumps ahead into the future and creates endless possibilities about how things might turn out.
This can be very helpful and a turn-on when the sexual scenarios your mind recreates are positive, pleasurable, and helpful.
However, when the sexual scenarios your mind recreates are negative, not very pleasurable, and unhelpful to the relationship, your mind can turn off your sexual response.
What is Sexual Mindfulness?
Mindfulness is best described as moment-by-moment awareness. There are four dimensions of mindful moments.
All mindful moments are:
- present centered
Mindful moments present centered because they always focus on the present, never the past or the future. Most of your thoughts are one step removed from the present moment because they focus on the past or future.
Mindful moments are non-conceptual because during them you merely notice the occurrence of something and your thoughts and feelings related to it. You don’t try to figure out why you are thinking and feeling what you are, you simply notice and accept what is going on.
Mindful moments are non-judgmental because they are based on accepting reality for what it is. You do not judge or compare a person or an experience against some arbitrary standard, you just accept them for what they are.
Lastly, mindful moments are non-verbal. They do not involve talking. Speaking involves another layer of cognitive activity that takes you out of the present moment.
Let me give you a sexual example.
Imagine that you are making love with your partner. If you were doing it mindfully here is what would be going on:
Present Centered – You would be fully attentive to what is going on with your partner. You would be experiencing your partner with all five senses. Your thoughts would only focus on what is going on with your two bodies as you make love. They would not drift to something that happened yesterday or will happen tomorrow.
Non- Conceptual- Instead of thinking about why things are going the way you are you you would simply note what is happening and enjoy it. You wouldn’t be trying to figure out or anticipate anything. You would accept your sexual experience for what it is and allow it to play out however it does.
Non Judgmental – You wouldn’t judge or compare your partner and your lovemaking to anything. You would enjoy and accept your partner and your lovemaking for what it was, not for what it could be or should be according to some societal standard.
Non-Verbal – You wouldn’t be talking a lot. You would communicate what had to be said with your body and your spirit.
Imagine what you sex life would be like if you could approach each sexual experience in such a mindful way.
You can stop imagining because I’ve developed a new home study program called Sexual Mindfulness that might be just what you need to reignite the flame of desire in your relationship.
The Sexual Mindfulness Program Will :
- Show You How to Build Mindfulness while Experiencing Sexual Pleasure.
- Show You How to Become a More Mindful Lover.
- Show You How to Use Mindfulness to Strengthen Your Personal Sexuality and Your Sexual Relationship(s).
- Show You How to Experience Sex With All Five of Your Senses.
Hi, I’m Dr. Rich Blonna,
For the past 30 years, in my roles as College Professor, Health & Wellness Coach (BCC), Counselor (NCC) and Health Education Specialist (CHES) specializing in Human Sexuality, I have worked with thousands of students and clients seeking to improve their sex lives. These are people just like you who are in loving, committed relationships but over time just got stuck in a sexual rut.
As you well know, sexual relationships change over time. Work, kids, health issues, aging parents, familiarity with our partners, and a million other things change the way we view ourselves as sexual people and our relationship with our partners. Accompanying these changes are shifts in our sexual thoughts, feelings, values, and behavior. These changes in the way we view sex and our relationships often create thinking and feeling barriers that contribute to getting stuck. These sexual thinking and feeling barriers undermine the sexual part of our relationships and hurt our overall relationships.
As someone who has been married to the same woman for 46 years I understand how this happens. It has been an interesting journey, falling in love with my wife in my teens, marrying her at the age of 20, and essentially growing up together. At 66, I have experienced the effects of both aging and time on myself, my wife, and our relationship. I have watched my sexual relationship attitudes and values evolve over 46 years and know how easy it is to fall prey to thinking and feeling traps about sex .
Fortunately, about a decade ago I discovered Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and became a pioneer in applying its principles and practices to the field of human sexuality. Recently I have been involved in the new field of Acceptance and Commitment (AC) Coaching, which took the healing practices of ACT and applied them to Coaching.
I say fortunately, because AC Sex Coaching principles and practices are perfectly suited for helping people just like you manage thinking and feeling barriers about your personal sexuality and sexual relationships. The Great Sex From the Inside Out Program uses simple but powerful mental techniques to help you understand your sexual relationship values and goals and examine how your thoughts and feelings either support or undermine them.
I know these techniques work because I have used them with thousands of students and clients and personally in my own loving, committed, 46 year marriage.
My Promise to You
I can’t promise that if you take my Sexual Mindfulness program you will have a perfect sexual relationship. Honestly, such a thing just doesn’t exist. There are still times when I struggle with unhelpful thoughts and feelings about my personal sexuality and my sexual relationship. This comes with the territory of being a busy adult and having a thousand things to think and worry about each day.
What I can promise you is that after finishing my program you will:
- Become more Mindful and Experiencing Greater Sexual Pleasure.
- Become a More Mindful Lover.
- Use Mindfulness to Strengthen Your Personal Sexuality and Your Sexual Relationship(s).
- Begin to Experience Sex With All Five of Your Senses.
Here is what you get in the Sexual Mindfulness Program
11 Video Lectures
11 Audio Lectures
25 Activities (PDF File)
8 Mp3 Audio Files from the Sexual Mindfulness Album (4 hours )
1 E-Book (Sex-ACT PDF file)*
1 Ch. 08 Blonna Textbook (Healthy Sexuality PDF File)*
1 Quick Start Guide
You get all of this for only $69.00
Isn’t it worth the price of a couple of cups of coffee each week to bring back your your sexual passion and have the great sex you want and deserve?
So, what are you waiting for?
Sign up right now for the Sexual Mindfulness Program
Here is what others have to say about my work:
Dr. Rich: I feel like I know you after watching and listening to you through your training program!! I’m thrilled with what I have gained and how it already enriches my coaching. Thank you so much for the content, your commitment, and for making the program so easily accessible. I greatly appreciate the insight and tools I’ve gained through this program, and wish you well in your life’s journey.
– Betty Bowman, Executive/Leadership Coach & CCE Board Certified Coach
As a CPA in public practice, the thought that another stress-filled tax season was approaching was depressing and affecting my sex life. I decided to do something about it. Dr. Rich’s program delivers as advertised! I have gotten into a routine, started to meditate, and feel better. I find that the little things at work aren’t bothering me as much. I also find that my “road rage” stress has decreased. Best of all, my sex life has improved dramatically. I hope to maintain these improvements during my next few stressful work months, and I look forward to further improvement in the months following.
— Ken Buckworth – CPA in Private Practice
I have known Rich for many years and I believe he possesses a combination of qualities — integrity, generosity, compassion — which, along with the depth of his understanding of psychology and human nature, make him a valuable counselor for those who are looking to create a more meaningful life.
– Gregg Krech, Author, Naikan: Gratitude, Grace and the Japanese Art of Self-Reflection
Sign up right now for the Sexual Mindfulness Program for the low price of just $69.00