In my Five R’s of Coping Model I identify five different levels of defense against stress; Rethink, Relax, Release, Reduce, and Reorganize. Reduce works as a level of defense against stress by learning how to find your optimal level of stimulating activities and demands (what some people incorrectly call stress).
In a previous blog (What is Stress?) I described the three components of stress: (1) a potential stressor, (2) what your mind tells you (your self-talk) about it and your ability to cope with it and (3) a stress response that kicks in if you feel unable to cope with it.
When you start to view stress this way you begin to change. You no longer see stress as something that just happens to you, and is beyond your control. Stress becomes more than just “bills, traffic, the government,” or other things that exist independently of you.
To get a sense of what it looks/feels like to be truly relaxed, watch your dog seek out a warm spot in the sun. She finds a quiet spot away from the main traffic of the house, circles it a few times, stretches her legs, rolls her head and neck, lies down and fully arches her back, takes a deep breath and exhales deeply, and then curls up or sprawls in the warm rays.
I’ve been writing a lot recently about reducing stress and how this ties into one of my strategic lines of defense against stress, Reduce. I try to be mindful of how being overbooked and over-committed plays out in my own life. Lately I’ve been feeling a little overbooked and overwhelmed by fun, stimulating activities, that I am passionate about.
An AC coaching approach to helping your coaching clients get unstuck assumes they are whole and do not have DSM V mental disorders.They are just stuck.
The AC coach helps clients adopt an observing self view This view shows clients that they are more than a mere collection of their thoughts and feelings
Mindfulness training helps clients become aware of their thoughts and feelings and how they influence their behavior in the present moment.
Values are like the North Star. They are guiding lights that serve as sign posts for the direction your clients take in life.
Help clients become more psychologically flexible with disentanglement and gain separation and distance from unhelpful thoughts and feelings.
Acceptance shows clients how to accept and co-exist with troubling thoughts and painful emotions, shift their focus off of them, and onto take action.