This Valentine’s Day Practice Sexual Mindfulness
I remember last Valentine’s Day as my wife and I had dinner for two in a very romantic French Restaurant, a tradition we’ve carried on for the past 40 or so odd years. We left our cell phones in the car, had a nice before-dinner drink at the bar, and settled in for a sumptuous three course meal complete with champagne and chocolate covered strawberries for dessert. As we relaxed and caught up on the day’s events we were shocked by how many couples sat quietly at their tables, cell phones in hand, texting and surfing as the...
read moreWho Are You As a Sexual Person?
This is the promotional video for my new FREE COURSE on Udemy entitled, Who Are You As a Sexual Person? The FREE COURSE includes the following components: 6 Lectures (video, audio files) 9 Activities (video, audio files) 1 E-Book (PDF file) 1 TextBook Chapter (Ch. 08 Blonna, R Carter, L . Healthy Sexuality (PDF file) Find out more by watching this short video: Facebook Share Twitter Share Google+ Share Watch on YouTube:...
read moreSexual Mindfulness Book: Ch. 18 Sex as a Gourmet Meal
Ch 18 Sex as a Gourmet Meal I just wanted to give you a heads-up that the instructions for Sex as a Gourmet Meal are very graphic. You are probably already familiar with most of the sexual behaviors described in chapter 18. I am not trying to teach you how to have sex but rather how to do it mindfully. After a few minutes into the instructions you’ll see what I mean. The Sex as a Gourmet Meal activity involves using very sexually explicit instructions to help you experience it with all five of your senses. Because of the...
read moreSexual Mindfulness Book: Ch. 17 Mindful Oral Sex
Ch 17 Mindful Oral Sex I just wanted to give you a heads-up that the instructions for mindful oral sex are very graphic. The activity involves using very sexually explicit instructions to help you experience oral sex with all five of your senses. You are probably already familiar with oral sex. I am not trying to teach you how to perform oral sex but rather how to do it mindfully. After a few minutes into the activity you’ll see what I mean. Because of the explicit nature of the activity I want you to make sure you read the...
read moreSexual Mindfulness Book: Mindful Masturbation
Ch 16 Mindful Masturbation for Him and Her I just wanted to give you a heads-up that the instructions for performing mindful masturbation are very graphic. You are probably already familiar with masturbation. I am not trying to teach you how to masturbate but rather how to do it mindfully. After a few minutes performing the activity you’ll see what I mean. Because of the explicit nature of the activity I want you to make sure you read the instructions completely before doing it with your partner. Don’t worry if you feel...
read moreSexual Mindfulness Book: Ch. 15, Mindful Back Massage
Ch 15 Mindful Back Massage I just wanted to give you a heads-up that the instructions for giving a mindful back massage are very graphic. You are probably already familiar with giving back massages. I am not trying to teach you how to do this but rather to do it mindfully. After a few minutes performing this activity you’ll see what I mean. The mindful back massage activity involves using very sexually explicit instructions to help you experience it with all five senses. Because of the explicit nature of the activity I want you...
read moreSexual Mindfulness Book: Ch. 14, Mindful Foot Massage
Chapter 14: Mindful Foot Massage I just wanted to give you a heads-up that the instructions for giving a mindful foot massage are very graphic. You are probably already familiar with giving a foot massage. I am not trying to teach you how to do it but rather to do it mindfully. After a few minutes performing the activity you’ll see what I mean. The mindful foot massage activity involves using very sexually explicit instructions to help you experience it with all five senses. Because of the explicit nature of the activity I want...
read moreSexual Mindfulness Book: Ch. 13 Mindful Sexual Relationships
Chapter 13 is the first chapter in Part 3 of the book. Part 3 integrates everything you’ve learned about sex and mindfulness from Parts 1 and 2. In chapter 13 in the book I focus on two general themes designed to integrate mindfulness into your relationship: building grace and gratitude and improving your sexual communication. I’ll introduce you to Naikan, a type of self-reflection that focuses on building grace and gratitude. The cornerstone of Naikan practice is reflecting on three questions: What have I done for my...
read moreSexual Mindfulness Book: Chapters 11 & 12: Mindfulness Training
In chapters 11 and 12 of the book I give you step-by-step instructions for how to build mindfulness through what I call “formal and informal mindfulness training.” Formal mindfulness training is structured around a program of daily meditation practice. There are countless ways to teach people how to meditate. I teach mindfulness meditation in three steps: Diaphragmatic Breathing Training Breath Meditation Training Mindfulness Meditation Training I find that breaking formal training down this way makes it...
read moreSexual Mindfulness Book: Ch. 10, Acceptance and Mindfulness
Ch 10 Acceptance and Mindfulness So, imagine you’ve read all of the chapters in the book and you have a better understanding of your sexuality and what mindfulness is all about. What if you don’t like what you’ve become more mindful of? What if there are aspects of your personal sexuality or your relationship that you don’t like or that trigger troubling thoughts and painful emotions? How do you get beyond this to experience greater sexual satisfaction? The answer lies partially in Acceptance.Acceptance has four...
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Dr. Rich Blonna
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