New Dr Rich Book: Sexual Mindfulness
Sexual Mindfulness My new Dr Rich book, Sexual Mindfulness, will reignite the flame of passion in any long-term relationship. You can read the book by itself, or in conjunction with the companion Audio Files that have all of the longer practice exercises recorded for your listening pleasure. . How do you keep your sexual passion alive after you’ve been with your partner for 10, 20 or more years and have had sex thousands of times together? “The key is using sexual mindfulness to approach each erotic encounter with your partner...
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Everyday Mindfulness Training In this post I’m going to talk about mindfulness training. Mindfulness is best described as moment-by-moment awareness. There are four dimensions of mindful moments. They are (1) present centered, (2) non-judgmental, (3) non-verbal, and (4) non-conceptual. Mindful moments always focus on the present, never the past or the future. Most thoughts are one step removed from the present moment because they focus on the past or future. Mindful moments always exist in the present space and time, a context often...
read moreCommon Thinking Traps Related to Stress
Rethink Course In my Rethink Course and my book Stress Less, Live More I discuss ten discuss common thinking traps related to stress. Thinking traps are stereotypical ways of viewing potentially stressful situations that often lead to stress. Most of these traps are so insidious that you don’t even realize that you fell into them let alone that they have triggered a stress response. In this post I’d like to share three of my favorite common thinking traps related to stress. These account for a large majority of my unhelpful...
read moreAre Your Thoughts Helpful?
Rethink Course Are your thoughts helpful? No one has probably ever asked you this question before. Most folks don’t spend a lot of time thinking about their thoughts. Understanding if your thoughts are helpful or unhelpful in terms of managing your stress is a critical skill you can learn. Rethink, as a line of defense against stress, focus on what your mind tells you about potential stressors and your ability to cope with them. Since your stress response is triggered by what your mind tells you about potential stressors...
read moreHow Much Do You Value Relaxation?
Relax Course In this post I am going to answer the question, “How much do you really value relaxation? This is an important question to ask because any effort you take to use relaxation strategies to help you manage your stress has to be based on yous values. If you don’t really value relaxation as a way to manage your stress it is very unlikely that you’ll be successful in using it effectively. As I’ve discussed in a previous post, Relax, as a line of defense against stress, revolves around putting your body in a...
read moreWhat is True Relaxation?
Relax Away Your Stress In this blog post I am going to answer the question, What is True Relaxation? The simplest way to describe true relaxation is that it is the opposite of stress. The relaxed state and the stressed state are the complete opposites. This is why it is impossible to be relaxed and stressed at the same time. The goal of all relaxation training is to induce a relaxation response that cancels out the stress response. Put your feet up and relax The Stressed State As I discussed in a previous post, when you are threatened and...
read moreThe Five R’s of Coping With Stress
Introduction to Stress and Coping What Are The Five R’s of Coping? The Five R’s of Coping With Stress is your personal multi-level defense system against stress. To really manage your stress effectively you need a program that targets and attacks all three aspects of stress. My Five R’s of Coping system does just that. Each R is a level of defense that provides multiple strategies to attack one or more of the aspects of stress. The Five R’s: Rethink, Relax, Release, Reduce & Reorganize Rethink Rethink focuses...
read moreSo What is Stress All About?
Introduction to Stress and Coping Back to the Basics It has been a few years since my very first post on stress was published in this blog. Since then I’ve taken you through my multi-level defense system against stress and introduced you to a new way of looking at stress and coping. these are stressful times Now it is time to go back to the beginning and flesh out the principles and practices I’ve been discussing in this blog. You have the advantage of being able to refer to my original articles on stress if you choose. In one of...
read moreHelping the Helpers Reduce Their Stress
CEU Stress Training Who is helping the helpers reduce their stress? Isn’t it ironic that helpers, people just like you who have dedicated themselves to helping others reduce their stress, reach their goals, and live lives filled with passion and purpose have lost those very qualities themselves? So many helpers I know are overwhelmed by too many demands and commitments and not enough time to meet them. You spend your days and nights seeing clients, attending meetings, writing reports, obtaining continuing education, volunteering to run...
read moreRethinking New Year’s Resolutions
Now that the dust has settled and all of the “experts” have chimed in regarding their thoughts on the subject I’d like to offer you some new ideas for Rethinking New Year’s Resolutions. The word “resolution” is derived from the root “resolve” and means to solve by changing, converting, or dissipating. In the case of New Year’s Resolutions what most people try to change, convert, or dissipate are bad habits or unhelpful behaviors. When you make a resolution to “start exercising” for example, you are...
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