Instead of accepting themselves, their partners, and their sexual activity for what they are, many clients are constantly comparing and judging them against unattainable societal standards. This often causes clients to get stuck in a sexual rut. Sexual acceptance teaches clients how to accept themselves, their partners, and their sexual activity for what they are and to savor them. It shows clients how to apply the four components of acceptance to their sexuality.
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The observing self view allows clients to step back and become impartial observers of their sexual thoughts, personal scripts, mental images and emotions. When clients can observe their sexual thoughts, personal scripts etc., from the safe distance of the observing self view, it allows them to see that their mental activity is just that, things going on in their minds.
Disentanglement techniques give clients several different ways to step back and take an observing-self view. Many Disentanglement techniques such as the White Board actually use physical distance to separate clients from the contents of their minds (which they write down on white boards). By stepping back and reading what is on the boards, clients distance themselves from it.
Sexual Commitment builds upon Valued Sexual Living by taking the sexual values clients identify in that process and using them to set values-based personal and relationship sexual goals. When your clients’ sexual actions are connected to their sexual values they have a clear purpose and direction. The thing that makes any action purposeful is the notion of intent. When clients do something on purpose, they do it intentionally, not by chance, or on a whim.