If you’ve been in a sexual relationship for over five years you’ve probably gotten stuck in a sexual rut. To get unstuck you need to learn how to approach sex with your long-term partner with a “beginner’s mind” as the Buddhists say. In other words, you need to build sexual mindfulness. In reality, each day you, your partner, your sexual response, and the context of your sexual relationship changes. Because of this you have the ability to experience sex with your partner as something new and special if you approach it mindfully, without prejudging how things will play out. Using all five of your senses and the power of your sexual mind you can discover new joy and sexual pleasure with your partner regardless of how long you have been together or how many times you have had sex, if you allow yourself to.