Unleash the Power of Your Sexual Mind

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Dr Rich Blonna - Your Guide To Less Stress and Better Sex

Written By Dr. Rich

For more than 30 years, I have devoted myself, both professionally and personally, to helping people just like you stress less, have better sex, and enjoy life more.

Learn more about Dr. Rich

I am a university professor, author, and a world-renowned expert in how the mind and body work together in creating and managing stress. I’m proud to be one of the creators of Acceptance and Commitment (AC) Coaching, an exciting form of cognitive psychology that combines mindfulness, acceptance, and commitment to help people stress less and enjoy better sex and a more fulfilling life. I’m certified in Naikan and Morita, two forms of Japanese psychology that emphasize mindfulness and acceptance training respectively. I’m also a Board Certified Coach (BCC), National Certified Counselor (NCC), and Certified Health Education Specialist (CHES). My eclectic approach combines the best practices from all of these disciplines. I’ve helped thousands of people from the United States, Europe, South Africa, and Asia through my books, audios, and adult training courses. My home is in Marco Island, Florida where I live with Heidi, my wife of 48 years. I love writing, tennis, running, kayaking, swimming, biking, weight training, meditation on the beach, and anything that gets me outdoors in the sun.

April 9, 2022


This is a post for lovers who:

  • have been in a marriage or committed relationship for at least 5-10 years.
  • are juggling work, family, and other responsibilities.
  • are still in love but have found that your passion and desire are not what they used to be.
  • feel that your sex life could use a tune up but you are not interested in anything kinky or artificial

If this is you then you’ve come to the right place.

The good news is:

  • my approach to great sex is perfect for lovers who have been together for 5, 10, 25, or 45 years (like my wife and I have been)
  • you can find ways to rekindle your desire and passion regardless of your responsibilities.
  • not only can you re-ignite your passion and desire at any age, you can actually increase it regardless of how long you have been in your relationship.
  • my approach does not rely on sex toys, artificial devices, drugs, or gimmicks like greeting your partner at the front door dressed up like a Dallas Cowboy’s Cheerleader (although I have nothing against the beautiful women who have that job:)

What is the Secret?????

The secret to rekindling your passion and desire and having great sex at any age is unlocking the power of your sexual mind. 

 

The key to this is sunderstanding that great sex starts and finishes between your ears, not between your legs.

While there are a few components of great sex that we’ll discuss later, the most important thing to remember about it is that it begins and ends in your mind, not your genitals.

There are many different theories of sexual response starting with the great Masters and Johnson. They all propose that sexual response starts in your mind with desire and ends in your mind with satisfaction.

You determine what turns you on and starts the flames of desire burning that trigger your sexual arousal. Desire is psychological, triggered by the thoughts and feelings going on in your mind. Without desire there is no sexual arousal.

If you feel desire, your mind switches on your body and sexual arousal begins. During sexual arousal your body starts many different reactions going leading to things like erection, lubrication, changes in skin color, respiration, heart rate etc. For these to continue, your desire must remain (think about the last time you lost your erection or vaginal lubrication after initially feeling desire).

This constant interplay between what your mind is telling you about the experience and what is going on in your body will continue throughout your sexual experience.

If your mind continues to play along, your sexual arousal builds and builds until you reach a plateau, that point of maximum arousal, when you are just all wound up and twitchy and ready to explode.

Your mind then triggers the wonderful release of all that sexual tension and energy that comes with the ripples of pleasure of orgasm followed by the down time needed to start up again (resolution).

Lastly is the sense of satisfaction or dissatisfaction you mind tells you about have when it is all over and you roll over and reflect about what the heck just happened.

As you can see from this, your mind plays a crucial role in desire, arousal, orgasm, and satisfaction.

The really great news is …

You can learn to unleash the power of your sexual mind to help you build sexual desire, enjoy and prolong arousal, trigger an orgasm, and enhance your sexual satisfaction.

My Great Sex From the Inside Out Program, is a multi-session home study course for people just like you who have been in a committed sexual relationship for 5, 10, or more years and want to re-ignite the flame of desire or make it even brighter.

 

 

                                                                                                               

Click Here for More Information About My Great Sex From the inside Out Program

 

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Contact with the Present Moment (mindfulness).
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Acceptance (acceptance).
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These same six processes are used to get unstuck from unhelpful sexual thinking that is keeping you from having the kind of sex life and relationships you want and deserve.

In this post I want to focus on what Mindfulness means and how it related to your sexuality.

Mindfulness is best described as moment-by-moment awareness. There are four dimensions of mindful moments. They are

present centered
non-judgmental
non-verbal
non-conceptual

Mindfulness can greatly enhance your ability to experience sexual pleasure and eroticism through all of your senses. By slowing down and integrating all of your senses into your daily experiences, you set the stage for doing the same thing in the bedroom.

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