AC Sex Coaching # 6: The Observing Self and Disentanglement

Dr Rich Blonna - Your Guide To Less Stress and Better Sex

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For more than 30 years, I have devoted myself, both professionally and personally, to helping people just like you stress less, have better sex, and enjoy life more.

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I am a university professor, author, and a world-renowned expert in how the mind and body work together in creating and managing stress. I’m proud to be one of the creators of Acceptance and Commitment (AC) Coaching, an exciting form of cognitive psychology that combines mindfulness, acceptance, and commitment to help people stress less and enjoy better sex and a more fulfilling life. I’m certified in Naikan and Morita, two forms of Japanese psychology that emphasize mindfulness and acceptance training respectively. I’m also a Board Certified Coach (BCC), National Certified Counselor (NCC), and Certified Health Education Specialist (CHES). My eclectic approach combines the best practices from all of these disciplines. I’ve helped thousands of people from the United States, Europe, South Africa, and Asia through my books, audios, and adult training courses. My home is in Marco Island, Florida where I live with Heidi, my wife of 48 years. I love writing, tennis, running, kayaking, swimming, biking, weight training, meditation on the beach, and anything that gets me outdoors in the sun.

March 5, 2022

In this video I discuss the two most challenging AC Sex Coaching techniques; The Observing Self and Disentanglement.

The observing self view allows clients to step back and become impartial observers of their sexual thoughts, personal scripts, mental images and emotions. When clients can observe their sexual thoughts, personal scripts etc., from the safe distance of the observing self view, it allows them to see that their mental activity is just that, things going on in their minds.

Disentanglement techniques give clients several different ways to step back and take an observing-self view. Many Disentanglement techniques such as the White Board actually use physical distance to separate clients from the contents of their minds (which they write down on white boards). By stepping back and reading what is on the boards, clients distance themselves from it.

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