New Sexual Mindfulness Program: What is Sex?

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For more than 30 years, I have devoted myself, both professionally and personally, to helping people just like you stress less, have better sex, and enjoy life more.

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I am a university professor, author, and a world-renowned expert in how the mind and body work together in creating and managing stress. I’m proud to be one of the creators of Acceptance and Commitment (AC) Coaching, an exciting form of cognitive psychology that combines mindfulness, acceptance, and commitment to help people stress less and enjoy better sex and a more fulfilling life. I’m certified in Naikan and Morita, two forms of Japanese psychology that emphasize mindfulness and acceptance training respectively. I’m also a Board Certified Coach (BCC), National Certified Counselor (NCC), and Certified Health Education Specialist (CHES). My eclectic approach combines the best practices from all of these disciplines. I’ve helped thousands of people from the United States, Europe, South Africa, and Asia through my books, audios, and adult training courses. My home is in Marco Island, Florida where I live with Heidi, my wife of 48 years. I love writing, tennis, running, kayaking, swimming, biking, weight training, meditation on the beach, and anything that gets me outdoors in the sun.

August 9, 2022

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Here is a little taste from the section on What Sex Is in my new Sexual Mindfulness Program….

 

Before we can jump right in and start discussing sexual mindfulness we need to answer the question, “What is sex?” You’re probably wondering why I even need to ask the question because everyone knows what sex is, right?

Well, maybe.

Sex can mean many different things to different people, right? Let me give you an example and  share a little story that dates all the way back to 1998. I clearly remember this day because I was teaching my college Human Sexuality class when it occurred.

On January 16th,  1998 President Bill Clinton went on television and infamously told the nation, “I did not have sexual relations with that woman, Miss Lewinsky.” During the very same press conference he went on to admit that the stains on her blue dress were there because she had performed oral sex on him in his office.

Now at the time I was 47 years old and my first reaction to his quote was , “yeah, sure, so how do you explain the stains on her dress?” After thinking it over for a while I began to wonder if maybe he really didn’t think that oral sex was sex.

Since I was teaching  a Human Sexuality college at the time  I decided to ask my students the question; “What is sex?”. 

I was amazed at the results.

  • Most did not consider oral sex , sex.
  • They viewed it more as a type of foreplay or making out rather than putting it in the same class as intercourse.
  • Furthermore, most of them who had given or received oral sex but hadn’t had sexual intercourse yet still considered themselves to be virgins.

 

To be honest, I was blown away by the results. I was only a few years younger than President Clinton at the time he made his statement and I definitely viewed oral sex as sex. In fact I viewed oral sex as not only a type of sex but probably the most intimate form of sex because of the face to genital exposure  someone has when performing it. I still feel this way.

This little lesson made me realize that I couldn’t just assume that everyone viewed sex the same way I did and it was worth spending time clarifying how students in my classes and my coaching clients actually viewed sex.

In this section of the program we’ll explore what sex is and take a deep dive into understanding sexual identity and gender.

A big part of sexual mindfulness is being clear about your thoughts and feelings related to you sexual identity because it plays such a big part in your sexual response and your satisfaction with sex.

 

Sound interesting?

 

Find Out More About My Sexual Mindfulness Program

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