Everyday mindfulness training is the application of the principles and practices of mindfulness to everyday living. While the everyday application of mindfulness principles and practices are endless, this post will focus on a few places where I think the impact is particularly great:
- Relationships with Family, Friends, and Co-Workers
- Communicating with Others
- Being True to Your Values
- Fitness and Sports
- Intimate Sexual Relationships
Relationships With Family, Friends, and Co-Workers
Imagine what your relationships with your spouse/partner, children family, co-workers, and friends would be like if every moment with them was more mindful. You would give them your complete attention and be fully aware of interacting with them in the present moment. You wouldn’t be distracted by something else going on at that time and your mind would not be jumping ahead of the conversation or dredging up some past thoughts or feelings. Instead of judging or criticizing, you’d be listening with understanding.
How do you think your spouse/partner, children, family, co-workers, and friends would feel if you started interacting with them this way? Do you think it would improve your relationships and maybe even result in some modeling behavior where they started to be more mindful of you when they wanted your attention?
I’m not naive enough to think that you will communicate this way 100% of the time. I understand the pressures of everyday life and how difficult it is to be completely mindful of all interactions with everyone, all of the time. I do know from personal experience however that when you start to treat others in a more mindful way (less judgmental, more present-centered, listening to them without trying to figure them out etc.) they do appreciate it and often reciprocate more mindfully without even realizing it.
How would you feel towards the people in your life who really matter if they started being more mindful of you when they spent time with you? Wouldn’t it be nice to have them listen to you without judgment, accept what you were saying or doing, and not jump into the past or future taking themselves out of the present moment?
Everyday Mindfulness training will have immediate effects in your relationships. Without even thinking about it, you will find yourself being more mindful of others in your interactions with them.
Communicating with Others
Good communication involves giving and receiving messages clearly and openly. Good communication also involves being aware of miscommunications and clearing them up as quickly as possible, before they can damage relationships. Everyday Mindfulness training can help you become more aware of miscommunications and the need to clear them up. Mindful communication involves noticing not just what is being said but how it is being said and the influence of your immediate environment on the dialogue. Everyday Mindfulness training will teach you how to use mindfulness to communicate more effectively.
Staying True to Your Values
Your values are the sign posts that guide you on your journey through life. They are central to who you are as a person and what makes you happy. Understanding your core and satellite values and being more mindful of living in synch with the takes practice. Most people spend little time assessing their values and trying to align their lives to be more in synch with them. Everyday Mindfulness training explains the true nature of values, helps you clarify your core and satellite values, and shows you how to live in synch with them. It also helps you notice and accept when you have strayed from your values and need to refocus on behaving in ways that reflect them.
Eating Eating is one of the great pleasures of life yet most people are so distracted that they pay little attention to the food and drink in front of them. Instead they mindlessly consume it while talking on the phone, watching television, checking their email, planning tomorrow’s activities or reliving the previous day’s. It’s no wonder that so many people have gastrointestinal diseases or eating disorders. Imagine what each meal would be like if you could slow your mind (and body) down and just focus on the experience of savoring your food? Everyday Mindfulness training will show you how to fully focus on what you are eating and drinking and experience your meal with all five senses. It will help you appreciate the different aromas, tastes, textures, and other qualities of your food and beverages.
Fitness and Sports
Wouldn’t it be great if you could “get into your zone” while participating in your sport and practice mindfulness at the same time? The good news is that you can do both. Mindfulness training is being used by Sports Psychologists all around the world to help athletes and fitness enthusiasts become more mindful and get their minds into that zone where outside distractions, fears, and worries, are replaced by inner calm and razor sharp focus.
Everyday Mindfulness training shows you how you can turn any aerobic fitness activity into a form of moving meditation. Moving meditation uses the movements that accompany any repetitive continuous physical activity as a focal point. Focusing on the movements of your body and the sensations in your immediate environment will calm your mind and train your body for greater results. Everyday Mindfulness training shows you how to turn walking, running, swimming, bicycling, cross-country skiing, and many other activities that use repetitive, continuous physical activity into moving meditations. In addition, it will show you how to turn any form of physical activity into a more mindful experience that will enhance your performance and enjoyment.
Intimate Sexual Relationships
Imagine what your sex life could be like if each time you made love with your partner you did so mindfully, with all five of your senses. Your mind stayed in the present moment, fully experiencing the sensations of touch, taste, smell, sight and touch as you and your partner made love. You were so locked into the present moment that your mind did not drift to the past or future, didn’t try to figure anything out or solve any problems. You didn’t compare your partner or the experience to some set of societal expectations. Instead you gave yourself completely and accepted the gift of your partner’s sexual offering with grace and gratitude.
This is not some fantasy or sexual lifestyle beyond your reach. It has nothing to do with age, beauty, penis or breast size or other physical attributes, lingerie, jewelry, perfume, make-up, or any of the variables society equates with great sex. Everyday Mindfulness training helps ordinary people have extraordinary sex with the same partner they’ve had for years by showing them how to approach each experience with grace and gratitude and a beginner’s mind.